Curriculum: Teaching skills needed to create a culture of cooperation based on reciprocity

Index:

Topic 1 of 4: Understanding the concept of cooperation

Topic 2 of 4: Establish the value of cooperation

Topic 3 of 4: Demonstrate the acquisition of communicating reciprocity skills

Topic 4 of 4: Personal safety—being able to recognize danger
                       and take proper precautions for personal safety

Topic 1 of 4: Understanding the concept of cooperation

Objective

Activity

Outcome/Evaluation

Understand the similarities and differences between collaborative cooperation and reciprocal cooperation.

Participate in a collaborative cooperation game.

 

Engage in group discussion.

View a video of the movie, Babe, and identify incidents of reciprocal cooperation

Completion of a worksheet defining terms: cooperation, collaboration, and reciprocity.

 

Verbalizing examples of collaborative and reciprocal cooperation in everyday life.

Understand the difference between cooperation and competition.

Engage in group discussion.

 


View a video of the movie, Lord of the Flies, and identify incidents of competition.

Completion of a worksheet identifying strategies of competition and cooperation.

 

Identification of situations where competition and cooperation are appropriate and inappropriate.

Understand the concept of fairness in reciprocating nice gestures.

 

 

Understand the concept of fairness in providing consequences for both nice and nasty gestures.

 

 

Understand the difference between consequences and revenge, consequences and punishment, and consequences and retaliation.

 

 

Understand how reciprocity works.

Hand out: "The Twelve Essential Components of Reciprocity."

Identification of the twelve essential components of reciprocity, and verbalization of examples of each.


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Topic 2 of 4: Establish the value of cooperation

Objective

Activity

Outcome/Evaluation

Understand that cooperation is the same thing as being fair.

Hand out "Life's not fair."

Listing of fair and unfair treatment in everyday life.

Understand the negative outcomes of escalation in coercion and combat.

Discuss war, domestic violence, psychological abuse, coercion, bullies, and gangs.

Engage in group discussion of why there are no winners in the escalation of violence in Lord of the Flies and how that escalation could have been avoided.

Listing of the outcomes of different kinds of escalation in different situations and an explanation of how everybody loses.

Examples of how escalation could have been avoided through reciprocity.

Understand how retaliation and revenge are not fair.

Hand out material on feuds.

Verbalization of examples from personal life experience of retaliation and revenge and their negative outcomes

Verbalization of examples of how reciprocity could have prevented those negative outcomes.

Understand how being nice all the time isn't fair.

Discuss the roll of the patsy.

 

Discuss how victim behavior invites bullies to abuse people.

 

Hand out material on being nice.

Explanation of why reciprocity is fair.

Understand motives for cooperation.

Discuss motives for being nice and the appropriateness of all motives from altruism to self-interest.

Discuss motives for providing consequences.

Identification of personal motives for being nice.

Listing of reasons for giving appropriate consequences.


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Topic 3 of 4: Demonstrate the acquisition of communicating reciprocity skills

Objective

Activity

Outcome/Evaluation

Show a willingness to cooperate. Be nice first.

Discuss what constitutes being nice. Who decides that a given gesture is nice? Did the person you were nice to know that you were being nice?

Give students a list of all their classmates, and have them write something nice about each one.

Something nice done for a good friend; description of what happened.

Something nice done for a family member; description of what happened.

Something nice done for someone one doesn't know very well; description of what happened.

Description of reasons for doing nice things.

Show a willingness to cooperate. Never be nasty first.

Discuss the consequences of being nasty.

Examples of how being nasty without provocation got you in trouble.

Notice when someone is nice, and be nice in return.

Compile the list of nice things said about each student, and give each student his or her personal list.

Discuss the reciprocation of nice gestures in terms of their kind and degree.

Description of what happened when someone was nice to you.

Role play the reciprocation of nice gestures in terms of their kind and degree.

Provide appropriate consequences when someone is nasty.

Evaluate the intent of an affront. Was it an accident, or was the intent to do harm?

Discuss fairness in degree and kind of response.

Discuss the difference between retaliation and consequence.

Discuss the difference between punishment and consequence.

Discuss the difference between revenge and consequences.

Hand out "Reciprocity encourages cooperation."

Observe spontaneous incidents of appropriate consequences for both nice and nasty behaviors, and use these as good examples.

Designate as a class project: developing a handout titled, "Examples of Reciprocity."

Description of a time when someone hurt you accidentally, including how you knew that it was an accident.

Description of a time when someone hurt you intentionally, including how you knew that it was intentional.

Description of a time when someone punished you or retaliated unfairly. [Add a second clause here?]

Description of a time when someone took revenge, including the result.

Description of a time when someone responded to your wrongdoing with a fair consequence. Add a second clause here?]

Role play about giving and receiving appropriate consequences.

Description of times when appropriate consequences successfully stopped a potential escalation of violence or feuding.

Two sample hand outs on appropriate real-life examples of reciprocity.

Live in the present. Don't hold grudges.

Hand out "Consequences need to be given in a timely manner."

Discuss the topic: Grudges set us up to be nasty without provocation.

Identification of how holding grudges can get you in trouble.

Identification of how holding grudges is negative, even when you don't try to take revenge.

Realize that people make mistakes. Apologize and be forgiving.

Hand out materials on apologies.

Discuss apologies, the components of a perfect apology, recognizing and accepting an imperfect apology.

Observe spontaneous apologies, and use them as good examples of cooperation.

Identification of the important components of the sincere apology.

Role play about giving and accepting apologies.

Description of apologies given and received in your personal life.

Description of a time when you accepted an imperfect apology.

Description of how giving and accepting an apology prevented the escalation of violence and coercion.

Realize that, with cooperation, everybody wins. Don't be envious.

Hand out "One person's good luck is not necessarily your bad luck."

Discuss the handout.

Identify individual successes of your classmates and celebrate those successes.

Contribution to the class project: "Things I've done that I'm proud of" and "Good luck I've had that I'm thankful for."

Offers of congratulations to your classmates on their accomplishments and celebrations of their good luck.


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Topic 4 of 4: Personal safety—being able to recognize danger and take proper precautions for personal safety

Objective

Activity

Outcome/Evaluation

Appraise situations for safety.

Provide the hand out: Times when reciprocity is not called for.

Discuss road rage, being outnumbered, and power imbalance.

Identification of situations in one's personal life when providing a consequence was not safe.

Identify appropriate action to take in an unsafe situation.

Engage in class discussions about the following topics:

1.   Identification of appropriate authorities for dealing with dangerous situation.

2.   Alternative actions to take when reciprocity is not safe.

3.   Ignoring an offender, running away, getting immediate help, and reporting the incident to the appropriate authorities.

Development of a personal safety plan.

Listing of authorities one would be willing to contact for help when one is in a dangerous situation, and statement of why each authority is appropriate.

Listing of appropriate alternative actions one would be willing to take when reciprocity is not safe.

Agree to follow a safety plan.

Discuss each person's safety plan, and make suggestions as needed.

Indication of approval of the plan and agreement to follow it.

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