Ten Commandments

I - Thou Shalt Be Nice First
You don’t have to be overly nice, or be friends with everyone,
but you do need to let others know you are willing to cooperate.

II - Thou Shalt Be Nice In Return
A kind gesture deserves a kind gesture in return.

III - Thou Shalt Provide Consequences
Being nasty in return is not revenge or punishment.
It’s a message that says, “Nasty behavior will not be tolerated”.
Be fair. A consequence should never
be harsher than the offense received.

IV - Thou Shalt Not Be Nasty Without Cause
You do not have the right to be nasty without
provocation even if you don’t like someone.

V - Thou Shalt Apologize
When you know you’re wrong, say so. Be brief and to the point.
Lengthy explanations tend to sound like excuses,
and therefore insincere.

VI - Thou Shalt Accept An Apology
If someone treats you badly, even by mistake, tell them.
However, after you have let them know, accept a sincere apology
and offer another chance.

VII - Thou Shalt Not Hold Grudges
Holding grudges sets you up for
being nasty when you’re not provoked.

VIII - Thou Shalt Not Seek Revenge
Revenge does not equal justice. Revenge will escalate violence.

IX - Thou Shalt Exercise Reason
Over Righteousness

Do not hit back when retaliation will
serve no constructive purpose.
Road rage should not be reciprocated.

X - Thou Shalt Keep Thyself Safe
Handle minor altercations yourself.
However, seek help from a trusted authority
if you, or someone else, is being abused by a bully.

Paraphrased from "The Prize" by M. LaCourt

 —M. LaCourt